Itâs been a month since North Koreaâs Kim Jong-il met his maker, but the outside world has yet to hear whether Kim Jong-un, his young successor, has any plans to chart a different future for the impoverished nuclear state.
But according to a new book that hit shelves in Japan last week, the new rulerâs half-brother, Kim Jong-nam, has an ideaâone that has kept him from returning to Pyongyang. In My Father, Kim Jong-il, and I, author Yoji Gomi, a reporter at Tokyo Shimbun newspaper, reveals three interviews and 150 email exchanges heâs had with Kim Jong-namâmany of them critical of the policies adopted by his fatherâs regime. In those correspondences, Kim Jong-nam spoke of his conviction that reform is the only way forward for North Korea, and questions whether his half-brother can better the lives of his countrymen. In his last email to Gomi, dated Jan. 3, Kim Jong-nam wrote: âThere is no way that anybody with a sound mind will agree with a third-generation succession. How can a young successor, with only two years of grooming, take over (a system of) absolute power that has continued for 37 years? I suspect that the existing power group will prop up the young successor as a symbol, and take over my father.â
Gomiâs bookâa result of a chance meeting with Kim Jong-nam at Beijing Capital International Airport in 2004âgives readers a unique glimpse into a dynasty and regime that has continued to baffle the world.

Kim Jong-nam is best known for being detained by Japanese authorities in 2001 while trying to visit Tokyo Disneyland on a fake passport. Some âPyongyang watchersâ have speculated that the incident cost him his chances to succeed his father (Gomi debunks this in the closing pages of the book, arguing that the real reason behind Kim Jong-namâs fall was his insistence on reform). Heâs been living in Macau and Beijing ever since, and has been portrayed by the international press as a wacky, hard-drinking playboy obsessed with bling.
There might be a little bit of truth to thatâKim Jong-nam says he suffered from gout as a result of drinking, and admits that he has had âmany women.â But Gomi discovers through emails that Kim Jong-nam is more sophisticated than meets the eye. The veteran journalist describes Kim Jong-nam as a well-read, multilingual, and cosmopolitan man who is deeply concerned with the future of his home country. âIn a nation where his father wielded absolute power, Kim Jong-nam is the only person who questioned the methods of his nation and pleaded with his father for economic reform and liberalization,â Gomi writes.
Kim Jong-nam lives in Macau in exile, but interestingly, Gomi believes that the eldest son of Kim Jong-il is still a player to be reckoned with. Should Kim Jong-unâs regime collapse, Gomi conjectures that China will back the like-minded reformist Kim Jong-nam to take over the reins in Pyongyang.
The book debunks some of the conventional wisdoms about Kim Jong-il. For example, the Dear Leader was widely believed to have been a heavy drinker of the hard stuff, but Kim Jong-nam told Gomi that he rarely saw his father drink, save on holidays. On more important matters, the careful reader will realize that Kim Jong-il was not the absolute dictator as popular belief had it. In several emails, Kim Jong-nam obliquely suggests that his father was pressured into making decisions that he was not necessarily happy with.
Here are some highlights from the book.
Kim Jong-nam, the critic:
In his emails, Kim Jong-nam sounds more like a level-headed and informed North Korea analyst from the West, rather than the son of a dictator who threatened its neighbors with nukes.
He blasts the hereditary transfer of power, writing in one email that the decision will turn North Korea into a âlaughing stock of the world.â Kim Jong-nam argues that a third-generation succession is âunprecedentedâ in Koreaâs history with the exception of its feudal period, and that it contradicts socialism.
In fact, Kim Jong-il was also adamantly opposed to the idea, according to Kim Jong-namâs emails. Kim Jong-nam doesnât provide a definitive answer as to why his father changed his mind, other than mentioning that âinternal factorsâ were involvedâhinting that Kim Jong-il was somewhat pressured into making that decision. In the end, his father had no other choice but to anoint one of his sons because the North Koreans have become so used to believing the blood lineage of Kim Il-sung, that anyone else could disrupt the system, Kim Jong-nam wrote to Gomi.
Kim Jong-nam repeatedly told Gomi that North Koreaâs only way forward is to adopt Chinaâs mixed economic model of socialism and controlled capitalismâa belief he says he picked up in the mid-â90s. Kim Jong-nam says he clashed with his father on the subject, writing to Gomi that âreform and liberalizationâ were words his father disliked.
On the foreign-policy front, Kim Jong-nam believes that it is unlikely that North Korea will ever give up its nukes, given its animosity toward the United States. Kim Jong-nam attributes the regimeâs hardline antics to its geopolitical situation of having to survive while being surrounded by great powersâthough he adds that Pyongyangâs behavior will do little to solve North Koreaâs problems.
Despite his advocacy for reform, Kim Jong-nam remains skeptical of prospects for change. âNorth Koreaâs priority is to normalize diplomatic relations with the United States. Only then will it discuss reunification (with the South) and take measures to rebuild the economyâbut given the tensions among the United States, South and North Korea, itâs difficult to expect reform and liberalization.â
In latter emails, Kim Jong-nam wrote to Gomi that he was surprised with the regimeâs overwhelmingly negative reaction to his ideas. In his last interview with Gomi, Kim Jong-nam told the journalist: âNothing will change. It simply canât change.â
On his relationship with Kim Jong-il:
Gomi writes that Kim Jong-nam spoke of his father with âfear, despair, anger and respect.â
In several instances, Kim Jong-nam describes his father as âstrict but a loving person.â Considering the millions who starved to death and the tens of thousands sent to gulags under his rule, âlovingâ is probably the last word that comes to mind when describing Kim Jong-il. But that might have been the case for Kim Jong-nam, who was coddled by his father in his younger yearsâhe once got a luxury car just for going to the dentist, according to one email.
Kim Jong-namâs relationship with his father changed after he spent more than nine years at an international school in Geneva. During that time, Kim Jong-ilâs attention turned to his two younger sons, according to Kim Jong-nam, and that his father became disappointed in him for his Western ways of thinking (Kim Jong-nam says he made several friends in Geneva from around the world, and also claims to have an American friend who now works on Wall Street. He says he reconnected with many of his acquaintances via Facebook and Twitter).
Despite his tumultuous relationship with his father, Kim Jong-nam shows frustration with the outside mediaâs portrayal of Kim Jong-il as a crazy, eccentric dictator. âThe media is creating an image of my father as this scary person. He isnât like that.â
As he told Gomi in an interview, Kim Jong-nam thinks his fatherâs entourage is responsible for the Dear Leaderâs image problem. âMy father is deeply thinking about the future of North Korea, and he is disappointed that things arenât going the way he likes them to. From my perspective as his son, I think the surrounding environment and his advisors arenât capable enough. My fatherâs image is tarnished because of people who are only good at smooth-talking.â
Kim Jong-nam also writes to Gomi: âThere are sleazy officials who kiss up to my father for their own survival, lying about the affairs of the country in pursuit of their own good and creating a barrier between the leadership and the people ⌠I want these people to disappear away from my father and the successor. They are of no use for the development of North Korea and the future of the successor.â
On Kim Jong-un:
Surprisingly, Kim Jong-nam says he never met his youngest half-brother, since he was living in Geneva at the time of Jong-unâs birth (though Kim Jong-nam says he met Kim Jong-chol a number of times abroad âby coincidence.â
Kim Jong-nam says he is willing to help his brother from abroad, but he remains skeptical of Kim Jong-unâs ability to better the lives of his countrymen. âIf my brother is opposed to reform and liberalization, Iâm doubtful as to what kind of vision he has for developing North Korea in the future,â he wrote in one email. Kim Jong-nam is blunter in another email he sent a week before Kim Jong-ilâs death: âJong-un might look like our grandfather (Kim Il-sung), but Iâm worried how he can satisfy his people.â