It is perhaps the Eighth Wonder of the World that anything, anything at all, is left to divulge about Jenny McCarthy that she hasnât already divulged herself.
The Playboy Playmate-turned-MTV host-turned-The View panelist and controversial autism activistâand lately the star of Dirty, Sexy, Funny with Jenny McCarthy, a live two-hour SiriusXM radio show that debuts Monday at 10 a.m.âhas shared blush-worthy details about her personal life with millions of strangers.
These include how many times a day she masturbates, her penchant for farting in front of the men in her life, her severe heart palpitations that require taking beta blockers before sex, and her assertion this week that her second husband of not quite two months, singer-actor Donnie Wahlberg, âhas the most beautiful penis I have ever seenâŠthe size is perfectâŠIt fits my vagina perfectly and hits the spots right.â
After all that and then some, do any private parts remain to be revealed?
âI am incredibly spiritual, and I think people donât know that,â the actress-comedian confides at SiriusXM headquarters in Midtown Manhattan.
Itâs hardly the sort of intimate revelation that drives Internet traffic, but for McCarthy, it might actually be something close to a soft psychic underbelly. Spirituality, after all, is not as marketable as sex appeal, so maybe the media-savvy McCarthy is exposing a true vulnerability.
The head-turning archetype of a blonde bombshell, sheâs dressed in decidedly demure, crisp and very serious business attireâskirt, jacket, conservative stockingsâthat sheâs chosen for running the media gauntlet to hype the new program, which will feature female comics and the occasional celebrity guest (Demi Lovato has been booked for Mondayâs premiere).
âThatâs why when people say, âHow do you handle the criticism?â, I just feel like âlove yourself, love what you see, hate yourself, hate what you see,â â McCarthy explains. âWhen people project things, theyâre just not feeling very good about themselves. So Iâm very spiritual about my life and everything.â
Never mind mere criticism. McCarthy has been vilifiedâby members of the science establishment and science journalists, among othersâconcerning her claim that childhood autism is somehow caused by an over-use of vaccines, and/or that the vaccines made and marketed by the pharmaceutical industry are somehow âunsafe.â
As soon as I raise the subject, McCarthyâs personal publicistâwho is listening in on the interview from a few feet awayâpounces. âCan we actually not go into this?â the publicist instructs, offering instead to provide a newspaper op-ed in which her client explains herself.
âIâll hear the question, and then Iâll let you know,â McCarthy says gamely, adding with a confidential smile, âSheâs worried about me being âvilified.â â
The vilification reached critical mass last year when Barbara Walters announced that McCarthy would cohost The View (for only a single season, it turned out; McCarthy and Sherri Shepherd were replaced, along with executive producer Bill Geddie, in a shakeup ordered by ABC execs).
In a typical reproach, New Yorker science writer Michael Specter warned that McCarthy would be âthe showâs first co-host whose dangerous views on childhood vaccination mayâif only indirectlyâhave contributed to the sickness and death of people throughout the Western world.â
McCarthy herself famously told Time magazine: âI do believe sadly itâs going to take some diseases coming back to realize that we need to change and develop vaccines that are safe. If the vaccine companies are not listening to us, itâs their fucking fault that the diseases are coming backâŠIf you give us a safe vaccine, weâll use it. It shouldnât be polio versus autism.â
She came to this conclusionâand published three books on the subjectâafter her son Evan was diagnosed at age three with the neurological syndrome, and, by dint of sheer energy and celebrity, she became the nationâs most prominent purveyor of anti-vaxxer ideology.
Indeed, she is president of Generation Rescue, a group dedicated to the proposition that children on the autism spectrum can be cured, often by methods that depart from traditional, scientifically supported medicine.
âI am not anti-vaccine,â McCarthy insists. âIâm in this gray zone of, I think everyone should be aware and educate yourself and ask questions. And if your kid is having a problem, ask your doctor for an alternative way of doing the shotsââfor example, fewer vaccination doses at the same time.
âThe ironic thing is my position has always remained the same. People just never listened to it,â she says. âLiterally, throughout the years, I have said the same thing over and over again. But people will only read headlines instead of looking back and seeing what Iâve been saying.â
McCarthy says the attacks âfelt the same way as being attacked when I posed for Playboy. To me, itâs a collective fear I think people have. If theyâre not reading my books or doing the work on what Iâve been saying, I can understand why they would have hateful feelings. But read what Iâve said!âŠIâm done talking about it.â
Evan, the son she shares with her first husband, actor-director John Asher, is now 12 and doing okay. Unlike the standard image of an autistic child, heâs extremely verbal and alert to the world around him. Indeed, some critics have suggested that Evan was misdiagnosed to begin with.
âEvanâs amazing,â McCarthy says. âHe doesnât meet the diagnostic characteristics for autism. He definitely has quirks and issues from the seizures. He has a little bit of brain damage due to his seizures. He doesnât qualify for any more services, but he does have issues in his school. But for the most part, if he was in this room, youâd say, âI donât see any problem. He looks fine, and heâs a typical 12-year-old.â â
The boy lives in New York with his mother and Wahlberg, who were married in the Chicago suburb of St. Charles, Illinois, on Aug. 31. McCarthy wore a virginal white wedding dress for the occasion.
âHas it only been two months? It feels like five years,â she says of her so-far happy marriage. Indeed, they apparently canât get enough of each other. While his wife subjects herself to the tender mercies of The Daily Beast, USA Today, and the Inside-Access-Entertainment axis, Wahlbergâhe of the âbeautiful penisââhovers around the periphery, offering moral support.
âIâm gonna go to the restroom,â he tells her as my session with McCarthy is getting underway.
âOkay, my love. I love you,â she says, throwing her arms around him for a smooch. âYou hanging in there?â
âYeah,â he answers.
âOkay, good. I love you,â she repeats.
I point out to both of them that Wahlberg seems the very model of a supportive spouse.
âWeâre there for each other during the hard days,â McCarthy agrees. âThe long days.â
Wahlberg chimes in with the hint of a smirk: âThe hard days of digging ditches!â
I tell him: âThis is the media equivalent of digging ditches.â
âFair enough,â he concedes, and then resumes his progress out the door.
âAll right, babe,â McCarthy says.
The landscape is littered with Playboy Playmates who posed for their pictorials, performed their promotional duties, perhaps did a stint as one of Hefâs girlfriends (or wives) at the Mansion, and were never heard from again.
But McCarthy parlayed her naked ambition into a pretty fabulous career. There have been not one but two NBC sitcoms in which she was the star, best-selling books, movies, countless television appearances and even video games.
Since her abrupt departure from The Viewâwhich McCarthy likes to portray not as a firing but as a mutually agreed-upon âchange of directionâââIâve watched two episodes,â she says of the new panel in which Whoopi Goldberg is the only survivor, and the replacements include Rosie OâDonnell, Rosie Perez and Nicolle Wallace. âAnd when they were changing the direction drastically, I understood and said, âI wish you the best,â â McCarthy recounts. âI see that theyâre still trying to find that, and I still hope they can do it. Iâm all about female empowerment.â
Her experience on the show has had at least one lasting impact. McCarthy, who used to self-identify as a Democrat, now calls herself an Independent. âAfter The View, Iâve realized both sides are crazy.â
In a weekâNov. 1âshe turns 42.
âI feel good, because Iâm in a good place,â she says. âI think as you get older, your birthdays suck if you turn around and say, âDammit, Iâm not where I wanted to be at this point.â I think if I was still single, Iâd be a little worried, just because I would still be under the belief system that thereâs no one out there.â Laughing, she clarifies, âThereâs no one out there that could handle me. Or have someone with a son. Itâs a lot. So once I kind of surrendered to that, and met Donnie, and married him, lifeâs been really good. Iâve been blessedâŠI know Iâve finally done a good job.â
She says a recent conversation with Evanâwhose biological father lives in Los Angeles and is not around muchâhas persuaded her of that.
âOne night I said to Evan, âHowâs everything going? You have a stepdad now. How are you feeling?â And he said, âFor the first time, I feel safe.â His father lives in Los Angeles, so itâs always been just me and him, and as a single mom, I can say, oh my god, I did it, and he feels safe.â
And how does Evan cope with his momâs raunchy public persona?
âHe just says to me, âI canât believe everyone knows who you are,â â McCarthy says, adding that at some point, when heâs older, they will have a more detailed discussion. For now, however, she tells me without a hint of irony: âHeâs not allowed to go on the Internet.â