I got a tension headache from watching the vice presidential debate.
I recognized the source instantly, because it felt exactly like the throbbing pain Iâve felt every time Iâve had a man shout me down, cut me off and interrupt me during whatâs supposed to be a public conversation. And I honestly cannot imagine that millions of women didnât also instantly recognize the same feeling after watching Mike Penceâs performance on the debate stage.
People spend a lot of time emphasizing the supposed odd-couple pairing of Vice President Pence and the presidentâcontrasting the corrupt evangelicism of the former with the corrupt hedonism of the latterâbut what quickly became clear over the course of the only 2020 vice presidential debate is that Pence, like Donald Trump, thinks the rules donât apply to him. If this debate proved anything, itâs that the two powerful white guys on the current GOP ticket believe theyâre the only voices that matter.
Again and again, Pence talked over moderator Susan Page and interrupted Senator Kamala Harris, steamrolling past his two minutes of allotted time and ignoring Pageâs way-too-polite requests to wrap it up. He did this flagrantly, even flamboyantly, not just crossing the time limit by a few seconds in order to bring his argument to a neat close, as nearly every debating politician does, but emptily speechifying for as long as he liked, waving off the rules to which the campaign had agreed. Every second he did so was a second that to millions of women across the country screamed white male entitlement.
The display was made even more gross by Penceâs total unwillingness to actually answer any of the questions heâd been askedâhe deflected and obfuscated at nearly every single turn. At one point, Pence responded to a question about his stance on abortion with a bit on Iranian General Qassem Soleimani; at another, when asked about the presidentâs ongoing refusal to commit to a peaceful transfer of power, he rattled off nonsense conspiracies about the FBI spying against the Trump administration.
The moment that should forever be regarded as the pinnacle of Penceâs horribleness came when heâafter a whole debate of batting away questions he didnât like for talking points he preferredâdemanded that Harris answer his questions about whether the Biden team plans to pack the Supreme Court. In the ultimate show of his indifference to the rules as a debater, he literally crowned himself moderator and demanded a Black woman enator answer to him.
Letâs be clear: Page did a piss-poor job of shutting Pence down as he verbally bulldozed his way through the proceedings. (Seriouslyâfind some moderators who either understand the role of moderating or know how to work mic-cut off buttons.) But this debate proved that Pence is an astoundingly cool and effective liar, a master at evasion, and a disrespectful ambassador of white male arrogance, whose strategy was to merely reestablish the rules as he saw fit. Heâs Trump with all the coarse, loud edges buffed down to patronizing smoothness. The gall floweth over.
Hereâs the thing about all this: Try to imagine for a second Harris, who remained totally measured and calmâdespite Page effectively moderating only when it was the senatorâs turn to speakâbehaving in this way. You canât, because no woman in politicsâand certainly no Black woman in politicsâwould have made it to that debate stage if she showed even a fraction of that smugness and rudeness. Harris has been yoked with the âangry Black womanâ label her entire career, and thatâs continued into her time on the campaign trail.
Sheâs well aware that no matter what she says or does, sheâll be saddled with misogynoirâa toxic cocktail of racism and sexismâfrom people who tell on themselves every time they ignore her words and critique how she said them, the tone of her voice, the look on her face. And in this forum, as this mediocre white man flaunted his smugness, she had to keep swallowing the acidic annoyance again, a feeling Iâm sure sheâs well familiar with. It was a fatiguing demonstration of white male verbal peacocking by Pence, and Harris certainly deserved to be pissed.