In a perfect world, sick peopleâs lives wouldnât be worsened by administrative and financial nonsense. Yet, as anyone whoâs been sick knows, medicine is almost never cheap, never easy. If ever there was a reason to be healthy, itâs to avoid horrible legal and insurance costs. But all this is nothing compared to what happens to sick people who are members of a group deemed immoral, disgusting, or bad. A recent example of this is the case of Eden Alexander.

Alexander consulted doctors for a strange reaction she had to a commonly prescribed drug. However, the doctors dismissed her peeling, burning skin, pain, and other horrible symptoms as the result of drug useâapparently because Alexander is a porn performer. Because, you see, thatâs the only condition it could possibly be and, by the way, all sex workers are narcotic (ab)users.
Since her condition wasnât treated, she developed a full-blown staph infection.
She recovered somewhat after, but still suffered greatly. Her situation prompted her friends to set up a GiveForward page to help her pay medical bills.
Theânow cachedâMedical Care Fundraiser page on GiveForward continues: âThe infections combined triggered an existing thyroid condition, (which she didn't know she had) and⌠the additional stress triggered her into something called Myxedema Coma, the most severe form of hypothyroidism, and she almost died.â
What you should be wondering is why this GiveForward pageâstarted to raise funds to help a very sick personâis no longer live. That would be due to WePay, through which payments are processed on GiveForward. Are they having server issues? Is their website having technical issues?
No: WePay thinks sex work is gross and, if youâve done sex work, you should find some other way to raise money so you can, you know, live.
It seems, to WePay, that all the funding is for sex activitiesânot her medical bills which is the main focus and function of GiveForward. Medical bills translate into continued living, but this doesnât initially seem to concern them because they donât want to fund any porn-related activities.
Indeed, itâs not even that Alexander offered to exchange sex related activities for donating. WePayâs official statement reads: âUpon reviewing payments starting May 15, 2014 WePay discovered tweets from others retweeted by Eden Alexander offering adult material in exchange for donations.â
This means supportersâ activitiesânot Alexanderâsâare âviolatingâ WePayâs terms of service (ToS). You could say, âBut she retweeted the tweetsââbut the point is she herself was not violating the terms. Why wouldnât you be doing what you can to raise awareness of your campaign? Again, the campaign itself is not about sex work. The money was paying for medical bills, not any sex-related activities.
If people compensated others in some way, that was their businessânot Alexanderâs. (Indeed, one can only violate the terms if you âregister for WePay as a Merchant.â to quote from the ToS.) Does that mean you can never retweet, like, highlight, or share anyone who is trying to raise awareness of your campaign until youâve vetted them against WePayâs ToS? Does campaigning for others who are actual merchants have to itself meet their criteria? How will they monitor? In this particular case, it was two porn studios offering âperksââwhatever that means.
But an aspect that is particularly troubling is that such a clause exists at all.
âBy registering for WePay as a Merchant, you also confirm that you will not accept payments or use the Service in connection with the following activities, items or services:
- Adult or adult-related services, including escort services, adult massage, or other adult-entertainment services
- Adult or adult-related content, including performers or âcam girlsââ
But why? Why are sex workers being denied the service at all?
You could argue that sex work is mostly illegal in the U.S. But then on that same list of âprohibited activities,â WePay lists âalcohol,â âinfomercial merchants,â âgambling,â and other non-criminal activities. WePay has a summary of its hodgepodge list of arbitrary distaste and animosity: âYou can't use WePay for anything illegal, inappropriate, or risky. Just be honest and responsible, and we'll get along just fine.â
No one has any trouble defining what âinappropriateâ and âriskyâ is, right? We all have the exact same definitions. Many adult-related activities are not illegal, even in the U.S., so clearly that is not the basis of their outright ban.
âRiskyâ is a strange, amorphous term: if they mean things that are harmful and dangerous, a case can be madeâbut they need to show whatâs âriskyâ about, say, performing for a client in the safety of your home in front of a webcam. And what about âinappropriateâ? That vague term only makes sense if we understand context: your clown costume at a circus isnât inappropriate, but might be at a loved oneâs funeral. Much like offence, things donât just emit a quality of âinappropriateââcontext matters and itâs only inappropriate to someone. And, even then, why should that make it a sufficient reason to oppose the offensive material?
For example, along with Alexanderâs friend Kitty Stryker, I find preaching that focuses on ârevealing the evils of the homosexual agendaâ to be âinappropriate,â if I heard it on a radio show. But this GoFundMe campaign, processed by WePay, is still there. As is this equally âinappropriateââat a time when many of us want women to have autonomy of their bodiesâanti-abortion campaign. Yes, itâs also processed by WePay.
We all know what those terms mean: itâs everything WePay has deemed bad. Anti-abortion and preaching the evil of gays is fine, but sex workers being healthy? No. We canât have that.
WePay, however, arenât some Saturday morning cartoon villain. PJ Rey explains further:
âThough they have responded to all the negative publicity by transferring the original donations to Edenâs bank [and] by offering to help Eden restart her campaign (help which was, understandably, declined by Edenâs friends and supporters), WePay deflected blame for the incident to âback-end processors.â So who are these mysterious back-end boogiemen who force WePay to so aggressively discriminate against sex workers? [WePayâs CEO Bill] Clerico explained that these âprocessorsâ are card associations such as Visa and Mastercard.â
Indeed, these are powerful masters, as their statement on the situation reads:
âWePay is extremely empathetic to what Eden Alexander is facing and her hardship is unfathomable. We are truly sorry that the rules around payment processing are limiting and force us to make tough decisions.â
The rules were handed down on iPads from the gods of finance, it seems. Nothing is changeable. No exceptions possible. Indeed, what we canât ignore is that weâre not talking about an exception for a violation, since Alexander didnât want the money in exchange for sex work, but her medical bills.
As we noted before, stigma isnât some unfathomable attitude that twirls around the minds of bigots and reactionaries. It has tangible effects when left dormant or as default. The idea that sex work is deemed anything other than work should and is striking, at a time when personal autonomy is a concept so many want promoted and defended.
Many will say sex work is wrong because sex should not be exchanged for money. This attitude views sex as some magical thingâusually filling in the blanks between the equally questionable notions of monogamy and marriage. Fine if you want these views, but why assume sex, marriage, and relationships should be only your wayâand why should alternatives be wrong, as opposed to optional?
Some will say sex work is dangerous. Youâd firstly have to define sex work because Iâm struggling to see how performing in front of a camera for someone on the other side of the country or world is more dangerous than, say, skydiving. If you mean actual intercourse, then youâd have to, for example, make one night stands illegal, too. Indeed, that many brothels and sex workers demand cleanliness, hygiene, inspections, and so on actually means a lot of sex work is less dangerous than drunken sex with a stranger at a bar (not to mention sex workâs insistence on contraceptives).
Many will equate sex work with sex slavery, but as any one of the many sex workersâof all gendersâcan tell you, thatâs insulting and demeaning. First, it undermines the very real issue of sex slavery and trafficking. By mudding the waters with consensual adult services, the issue itself is not being dealt with. As Brooke Magnanti, a forensic scientist and author of The Sex Myth points out:
âNo one would ever argue about whether or not forced sex work is right, or whether it occurs. Itâs very wrong, and it does happen. The point is that the closer we look at the truth about trafficking, the more we find not women and children being saved from terrible fates, but people actually being harmed by well-intentioned policy.â
Well, where have we heard that?
Thereâs a discussion perhaps to be had about supply-and-demand, whether legalized sex work increases demand and therefore brings about sex trafficking. Yet, that still doesnât make consensual sex work between two adults wrongâit is not harm, it is business and work, but somehow it mutates into immediate immorality because sex is involved.
Second, it denies sex workers the agency of being business people, of being ordinary innocent persons trying to make a livingâand harming no one (in fact, doing the exact opposite). Sex workers frequently defend their profession as a profession, as work. Talk of âselling their bodiesâ makes little sense to the idea of them selling various services, like anyone else. Do we say a pop star is âselling her bodyâ? If so, we donât ask her to be considered a criminal. Why does sex magically make a person into a slave or a criminal of some kind?
Again: this doesnât deny the very real problem of sex trafficking. But this kind of attitude adds to the stigma demonstrated by WePayâs crass dismissal because of their finance gods. Indeed, it highlights that such a restriction should not exist at all.
Importantly, this attitude adds to the idea that criminalization is âsavingâ sex workersâwhereas it often does more harm. (Prison, after all, is such a good place to show how much you care about someoneâs safety!) This attitude is what led doctors to think Alexander must be taking drugs; itâs what makes it OK to livetweet âprostitution stings.â The attitude is one bound up in helping, but is more poisoner than saviourâand yet, no matter how often sex workers demonstrate their autonomy, consent, and adulthood, this doesnât seem to matter.
Thankfully, this story right now has a somewhat better outlook, with the new campaign for Alexander doing wellâthough the toll on her right now is unclear and worrying.
It should be disturbing to all of us that conservative views of sex, of women, can be policy for powerful businesses that directly affect the lives of innocent people. While I congratulate WePay for doing what they can now, Iâd only hope they and similar companies would change a position on an issue long in need of rethinking: adults should be able to have consensual sexual interactions with whoever they want, and it is no one elseâs business in most instances.
Care should always be taken, but that doesnât negate such activities from taking place. Stigmatizing it and criminalizing it means only greater harm to those it supposedly is protecting. Muddied waters blind us all and could see us hurting those, like Alexander, who donât deserve it.