It was the Fall of 2023. Just after the strike. Both of them. I had spent months with my fellow t-shirt clad writers and actors in L.A. and New York, picketing studios and streamers as we fought for higher wages, better healthcare, streaming residuals and more protections and guardrails against A.I. At long last, deals were made. But the strike lasted longer than any of us had anticipated. It not only depleted the savings accounts of so many in our industry but our hope and confidence in our ability to work in the future. All of us were scared. I know I was. We all just wanted to work. We deserved better.
A few weeks later, around the holidays, I was sent a script of a fun holiday movie, Our Little Secret, for Netflix with Lindsay Lohan attached. The role was âLeonardââa button-up guy in his sixties. âIâm not in my sixties!?â I thought. Playing older is a HUGE no-no in Hollywood. I mean, âALWAYS play younger,â right? And, if possible, thinner. But work was scarce and I could likely get over the vanity if they were okay with my requisite man-Spanx and greying my hair.
Even better, I would play Kristin Chenowethâs husband! I was already a huge fanâand I hadnât experienced a role like this in a long time. Not playing a husband, of course. I mean, Iâve played dozens over the years, even Tim Meadowsâ husband on an NBC comedy and, of course, most notably, Jeff Perryâs husband on Scandal for almost 30 episodesâwe even had a baby. This one would have to end a little better. And I liked the idea of playing against type. Being married to a real, life woman. Imagine that! It was a challenge and an opportunity I was eager for.
Then I got the script. I liked it. But my role, Leonard, didnât appear in many scenes and had little to say. Now, weâve all heard the adage âthere are no such things as small parts, only small actors.â But this? I donât know how else to say it: It was a small part. And maybe it was âsmallâ of me to say soâbut I didnât think my ego could take being what seemed like such an insignificant part of this Christmas rom-com.

âIâll be a background performer in most scenes!â I whined to my representatives. One of them suggested I passâfeeding my ego with all Iâve accomplished in more than two decades in this business. âWait for something better,â another said. I thought about it over the holidays. âWait for something better,â I kept thinking to myself. But waitingâis what Iâd been doing for the last six-to-eight months. And donât get me started on the pandemic. What else would I be doing besides licking the wounds of unemployment? Imagining myself headlining in projects that didnât exist?
Sure, I could play MUCH bigger roles in my head. And then I remembered my friend, colleague and previous boss, Shonda Rhimes, talking about in her book The Year of Yes: âLosing yourself does not happen all at once. Losing yourself happens one ânoâ at a time.â I remembered starting out as an actor and only dreaming of having opportunities, ANY opportunities, and vowing to the universe that Iâd gratefully accept any and all of them if they ever came. What happened to THAT guy?
So. I got over myself. My ego. My hubris. My grandiosity. I said âyesâ to the offer to play âLeonardâ and went off to Atlanta for the month of February. And all I can say is: I am so grateful I did.
The month I spent in Atlanta with Kristin Chenoweth, Ian Harding, Jon Rudnitsky, Katie Baker, Jake Brennan, Tim Meadows, Judy Reyes and of course, Lindsay was one of the most enriching, satisfying, challenging and, yes, fun experiences of my career. Kristin and I became instant friends. And together, we vowed to take the marriage laid out on the pageâand fill it with a real sense of history, chemistry, humor and all the tensions of a true troubled marriage. The cast spent time together on set and offâcreating an immediate intimacy needed to portray a genuine family on screen.

Steven Harek was encouraging of our collaboration, ad libs and suggestions. And before too long, Leonard became a more integral part of the storyâpart of a real, long-term couple with grown kids and a treasure trove of secrets that would only be revealed as the movie unfolded.
I will count my castmates as among my most valued, close friends for a long time to come. And Kristin and I have forged a deep friendship that feels like it was not only meant to beâbut will be a part of who weâll be for a long time to come. Our Little Secret premieres on Netflix on November 27th. Who knew one of the secrets of playing a successful family was to create a sense of family off screen as well? The other secret? Say âyes.â